Being a parent is hard. It’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever, ever done. Maybe it’s the hardest. Yeah. It definitely is. It’s ass-kicking hard.
And there’s that cliche, right, that says having a family is the hardest, but also the most rewarding, thing you’ll ever do. Meh. I don’t know. I don’t feel particularly REWARDED. Don’t get me wrong. I feel fulfilled. I feel challenged. I feel like it’s all worth it. I love my son more than anything I have ever known, and it’s a love that I didn’t realize I was capable of. That cliche is definitely true. This is a whole different level of love. I am in awe of him. My life is enriched by him. He brings humor and warmth and patience and grace and humility and happiness and laughter into my day, every day. I am growing and changing as a human being, in so many wonderful ways, all because of him. But rewarding? It is hard work. Such hard work. I’m not sure I would say I do it for the rewarding feeling that I get at the end of the day.
But I do it. We all do, those of us that have a family, those of us that are parents. We parent because we want to. And because we have to. A little mix of both, if we’re being honest. Although, phew, I would WANT to a heck of a lot more if I could take a few days off every once in a while. :)
So what’s my point? Hmph. I don’t know. I have 30 minutes until my son wakes up from his nap, and writing is therapeutic for me, so I’m writing. There is no point! Or maybe there is. It’s that being a parent is hard. Some days, it’s a disaster. And some days, it’s a disastrous disaster with some f-bombs thrown in. But it’s incredible. And it’s beautiful. Our children are beautiful. They are constantly evolving and changing and learning and turning into the people that we are trying so hard to help them be.
Ultimately, I think there are so many of us that both want time to scoot along quickly so we’re out of this “stage” (my son’s in a hitting stage, a no napping stage, a throw your food on the floor stage, a say NO NO to everything even the stuff that he wants stage, and I’m ready for that to be over…) but then, WAIT!!! I ALSO WANT TO FREEZE TIME AND TELL HIM TO STOP GROWING SO FAST!!!
One way to freeze time is by taking pictures.
That’s why I do what I do. Because I have a crappy memory and need pictures to remind me of things. Because I already feel like in some weird way, time is moving too fast even though the days can feel reallllllyyyyy loooonnngggg. It’s why I encourage every family, no matter what stage they are in or how hard and disastrous it is feeling at the moment, to take photos, too. I love being a part of capturing a family in their element, in all their glory, and finding a way to show them that it’s beautiful and they are doing it right, even when the photoshoot feels like it went all wrong.
Sometimes a family will show up early, perfectly primped and all in coordinating outfits with colorful, thoughtful accessories (how DO they DO IT?!?). Sometimes they show up 10 minutes late, and their son refuses to brush his hair or wear anything other than his Superman jammies. Sometimes there is laughter, and sometimes there are tears (although, I do my best not to cry at photoshoots. Makes things awkward, I’m told. Haha!). Sometimes it takes bribing with gummy bears and sour patch kids and trips to the ice cream shoppe. Sometimes your two-year-old son screams, the most ear-piercing, high-pitched scream, every time you try to pick him up, direct him this way instead of that way, or get near him at all (true story). And sometimes that happens when you have TWO two-year-old sons (also true). But, I promise. We’ll get pictures. And it will be beautiful.
Don’t just take my word for it. Browse some of the photos below – some required bribing, some involved tears. The screaming two-year-old photo shoot is included too, and I don’t think you’d know it if I hadn’t told you. That family laughed, said, “Well, our expectations of these photos are pretty low!” and they ended up loving their images enough to order a gallery of four canvases.
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